death of a family member

Processing the death of a family member can be very challenging. The grieving process can be very painful. Most people will experience the pain of losing a close family member or a loved one at least once in their lifetime. No one likes to talk about death. However, death is the one inevitable thing and the one appointment that we all must keep.

With the death of a loved one, such as a family member or a spouse you will experience a period of grieving. Mourning is a natural human emotion. We grieve because we are trying to recover from the tragic disappointment of death. The healing process can be short, or it can last for several months. Whether the process of mourning is short or long, the death of losing a family member is an emotional pain that compares to no other.

Grieving Family Loss

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Grieving is difficult for everyone, and people express their grief in many different ways. Some people withdraw from the company of others, while others seek to surround themselves with as many people as possible.

They say time heals a broken heart. However, healing only occurs when we come to terms with the substance of our loss. It has been sixteen years since the death of my son but occasionally it is still a painful reality for me. That was a very tough period of my life. I thought I would never be able to move past the tremendous pain.

Five Things You Should Do When Losing A Family Member

No one can lay claim to a right or wrong way to grieve. However, there are some things you can do to help you cope with the pain of losing a family member. Here are five things you should do to help you recover from the painful experience of losing a family member.

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1. Open Up

It is important to realize that everyone processes death in different ways. Understand that your loss is your personal journey and no one can truly feel your pain. That is why it is important that you open up. You should not be afraid to talk about your loss. By opening up you allow those around you to offer comfort. Consider joining a support group where you will find other people who can relate to your experience.

Following the death of a family member, you will be flooded with phone calls, emails, letters, and sympathy cards. They are chilling reminders of your grief. Open up only when you are ready to talk about it.

It took several weeks for me to get over the death of my son. For the first two weeks, I was literally unable to function. I quickly learned that by talking about my loss it became easier to cope with emotional pain and stress. I was surprised to learn that many of the people I talked to had similar experiences. Their words of encouragement gave me the strength to face my own reality.

2. Avoid Covering Up

Masking your pain is not the answer. Avoid hiding your feelings as it could lead to destructive behavior like drug addiction or alcoholism. Processing the death of a family member is painful. Therefore, allow yourself to grieve and stay as close to reality as humanly possible. If you drink alcoholic beverages or use narcotic pain medication, now is the time to back off. I was once addicted to crack cocaine. If anything can lead you down the road to addiction, it would be the death of someone close to you.

3. Let Your Emotions Flow

Whenever something hurts, whether it is emotional or physical pain the first thing you want to do is cry. Now is the time to understand that it is alright to cry. Friends can sometimes have a negative effect on your emotional stability. They might tell you to stay strong for your family. But again, no one knows your pain but you.

Losing a family member to death is painful. Trying to appear strong will only cause you to internalize your pain. Sooner or later, all that internal pressure will have to be released. And nobody knows what will happen when it is released. Volcanic eruptions are caused by internal pressure being built up inside the earth over a period of time. No one knows where or when such an eruption might occur.

4. Take Time to Heal

Emotional scars are invisible, but they leave lasting scars that are often more noticeable than physical scars. All things change with time. Allow yourself time to recover from such an inconceivable loss. Never place a limit on how long it takes to heal. Don’t put a timetable on your grieving, and never allow someone to tell you that you are grieving too long. There is no such thing as a typical allocation of time affixed for grieving for your loved one.

5. Cherish Good Memories When Grieving Family Loss

For a very long time after the death of my son, I tortured myself with negative memories of him. In my head, I saw him lying on a hospital bed in agony. When I closed my eyes I didn’t see his big wide smile. I did not hear the familiar sound of his laughter. Caught up in his suffering, I forgot about all of the good times we spent together. Take pleasure in remembering the good times you shared with your family member. Focus on seeing their smile and hearing their laughter. Concentrate on celebrating the life of your family member rather than memorializing their death.

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Recovery from Heroin
Heroin is an opioid drug made from Morphine. It belongs to the category of opium related painkillers. It looks like a white or brown powder, or a sticky black tar. Many people smoke or snort heroin, while some inject it into their veins. The number of people who use heroin has steadily risen over the years.
Why do people use heroin?
Some people take it as a means of reducing pain.
Some people take it in order to deal with anxiety, worries and other stressors.
Those who become dependent on or misuse these drugs may start looking for a stronger, cheaper, higher one.
Heroin is dangerous. Research showed that overdose death rate rose and some of these deaths happen because heroin is laced with other drugs such as this painkiller: “Fentanyl” No matter how you take it, whether by injection, snorting or smoking, heroin gets to your brain quickly and it’s also easy ever addicted. After using heroin just one or two times, it can be hard to stop yourself from using again.
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You see, the moment you take heroin, you get this ecstasy; this rush of happiness or good feelings just in a rush. Then after that rush of good feelings, you thinking and walking rate becomes slow; at times you feel like you are in a dream.
How does Heroin affect you?
It blocks your body from getting pain messages and slows your heart rate and breathing.
Overdosing leads to death.
What are the effects of taking Heroin?
Taking Heroin results in:
Dryness of the mouth.
Flushed skin
Drowsiness
Heavy arms and legs
Insomnia
Collapsed veins
Upset stomach
Vomiting
Itchy brain
Heart valves infection
Liver disease
Skin infection
Kidney disease
Mental disorders
Lung diseases
Menstruation problems
Miscarriages
A higher chance of getting HIV/ AIDS, Hepatitis B, and Hepatitis C
Have you ever tried withdrawing from Heroin on your own by personal struggles to stay sober?
If you try to stay sober from Heroin, you are likely to see these signs:
Severe muscle and bone pain
Diarrhea and vomiting
Restlessness
Cold flashes
Uncontrollable leg movements
Health problems
Disabilities
Trouble at home, work or school
Loss of white mater in the brain which affects decision making and control.
“Can I ever be free from Heroin? I want to be free”
Is this your heart’s cry? Does it really break your heart that you found yourself trapped by Heroin and you just can’t find freedom? I announce to you that you can be free! Sounds quite amazing? Yes, you can be free! Jesus paid the price for your complete dominion over Heroin. He has the power to break the chains of this addiction.
Think about the effects of being addicted to heroin. For how long will you struggle on your own, depending on yourself? Your life is so beautiful and your future is so bright, you must not allow Heroin destroy you. Your destiny is so promising and should not be truncated by Heroin. Your soul is so precious and should not be wasted by addiction to Heroin.
Dear reader, you’ve been fighting on your own to set yourself free, but the more you struggle, the more it threatens your life, future, family, health, present and eternal destiny; it even threatens the reality of living a beautiful life. Think about this!
Now, I know a Deliverer who has the power to liberate you and make you escape the snare of addiction. His name is Jesus! The Bible says, “Surely, he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.” (Isaiah 53:4,5)
He did that just for you!
Do you know that He is the Mediator between you and God. Despite the fact that sin, and this addiction has separated you from the One who loves you, Jesus is the Mediator. God sent Him to pay the price of Mankind’s redemption; and yes, to redeem you from sinful nature of humans and Heroin which seem stronger than you are.
You need to repent and get reconciled with God. He is a holy God; and He loves you. But you can’t access Him based on religion, depraved merits and others. That is why He sent His Sib, Jesus who is The Way. Jesus says: “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life, no man cometh to the Father but by me.” (John 14:6)
So, you need to believe in Jesus and repent of your sins in order to make right with God. Surrender to Jesus and welcome Him into your heart as Your Personal Lord and Saviour. He will liberate you from the chains of sin and Heroin.
Do this now!
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By Eric Dunbar

Once addicted to crack cocaine, my story is not unique but inspiring. I have been a professor of faith for most of my life. Before you inquire about my credentials, let me explain. I don’t mean professor as in “teacher” but professor as in “squatter.” For most of my life, I have been trying to occupy what I had never fully possessed, namely, faith. You see, my trust was in God long before I used drugs. To this day, I cannot tell you what happened to cause me to be addicted; it just happened. After a lifetime of serving God, somehow, I became a crack cocaine addict. I grew up in the church. I was born with talent. I started playing the organ for local churches at the age of eight years. I cultivated strong confidence in God early in life. From the time I was five until I was eighteen years old, I can’t remember ever missing a church service. I started playing keyboards in a popular R&B band at the age of nineteen years old. Midlife When you’re young, life is all about having fun, and I was indeed having a lot of fun. Playing in an R&B band exposed me to the rigors of nightlife, leading me to deviate from the church. I started experimenting with all kinds of drugs. At first, it was marijuana, then pills, and soon, I was using cocaine. All the while, I still attended church, although not as often. When I was married, my infrequent music revenue was inadequate to raise a family. So I left the band and found a job. I have always had confidence in God, but I didn’t know how to implement my faith. When my first child was born, I renewed my faith and got heavily involved in the church. A few years later, my pastor inspired me to begin a cell ministry in my home, where I faithfully worshipped God and held Bible studies every Tuesday. About seven years into my marriage, I slipped back into drug use. This time cocaine was my choice drug. Soon after, I learned to cook cocaine, converting it into a rocky substance called crack. That was the beginning of a life of trouble. I had become a slave to the drug; crack cocaine was now my master. Confident Expectation My wife threatened to leave if I didn’t control my addiction. Nevertheless, I remained confident that God would deliver me. But my wife insisted that I seek help. I wanted to save my marriage, so I enrolled in the Narcotics Anonymous Twelve Step Program. I completed the required thirty-day classes, and I went home drug-free. Fifteen days later, I was once again smoking crack. My crack smoking eventually led to my wife divorcing me. I lost my family, possessions, and everything dear to me. Life had become challenging, and I was near depression. My parents taught me that faith believes, so I understood the principle of faith. I had faith that God would liberate me, so I continued to pray that God would soon rescue me from this evil that had come upon me. One day I opened my Bible, and my eyes fell on this scripture: “So then faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God” (Romans 10:17). “I don’t go to church anymore,” I said to myself, so how can I hear the word of God? Then I thought to read the word aloud to myself. The Bible was now my best friend. I read the word to myself. The word of God came out of my mouth and went back into my ears. Alas, I was hearing the word of God. I still craved crack cocaine and got high whenever the opportunity presented itself. But for the next two years, I mostly stayed to myself, reading the Bible aloud, quoting scriptures, and praying. Believing Faith Speaks After two years of practically being alone with God, my craving for crack cocaine was gone. My confidence in God rewarded me with freedom. I learned that believing faith speaks. No longer did I profess faith, but I now possessed it. Faith is having confidence in the things we hope for. Although they are not visible to our physical eyes, we believe that God is working our hope into physical existence. It is the bridge linking us to the spiritual realm and makes God a touchable reality. When we trust God, it guarantees that God’s promises and Biblical revelations are true. We cannot detect these revelations and promises of the word of God with our physical senses. However, by trusting God, we have the confidence that our expectation will come to pass. Faith is the quintessence that the things we hope for become so concrete that even belief itself becomes a definitive reality of those things that are not yet visible. Your faith becomes so tangible that you believe you possess those things in the spiritual realm.

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